Confessions of an Honest Professional Organizer, Mom, and Human

As a professional organizer, you would think that I would have it all together

(or at least most of the time), right? Wrong.

We all have those fleeting moments of having it all together (remember those 12 seconds when ALL the laundry was caught up?) and then the moments where we crash and burn (that event was TODAY?). 

Why does everyone else seem to have it together, and I am silently screaming in my head? Because you’re human. And because what you're seeing is the highlight reel—not the behind-the-scenes chaos.

• That mom who always shows up with color-coded snack bags and curled hair? She cried in the car last Tuesday.

• The neighbor with a perfectly decorated house before December 1st? She stayed up until 2 a.m. and is now living on caffeine and fumes.

  
  

The truth is: most of us are silently screaming sometimes. We just wear different masks. Some of us hide it under mascara, some under a Pinterest-perfect planner, some under a very convincing “I’m fine.”

You feel like you're running behind because you're doing a lot—and because your brain is managing:

• A household

• Work or caregiving

• Your kids’ emotional and physical needs

• A million tiny invisible tasks no one else sees

  
  

You’re not broken. You’re overloaded. And you're not the only one.

Here are a few reminders for when it feels like you're falling behind:

• Comparison is a liar.

You don’t see the dishes behind the Instagram photo. Or the meltdown five minutes before the cute family pic. Everyone has their mess.

• Mental load is real.

Even if everything looks fine on the outside, the pressure in your head can feel like it’s about to blow. That’s not weakness—it’s just too much being carried alone.

• You’re not lazy. You’re exhausted.

There’s a difference. Rest is not a luxury. It’s survival.

• You’re doing better than you think.

If your kids feel loved, if you show up (even imperfectly), if you’re trying—then you’re already doing enough.

So...let's ALL try to give ourselves grace when we expect too much of ourselves. We are human and we need to remember that we can do anything, but not everything.